Teasing is a tool to break through a woman’s shield or defense mechanisms. When a woman is out at a social gathering surrounded by her friends, she’s probably been offered free drinks eight or nine times that night by guys who are seeking her attention. She won’t invest her time in every guy who approaches her, so she has to have a way to filter weak guys out.
What she may do is put a “shield” up to weed out the guys who are intimidated by her shield. If you find a way to surpass her shield then you are in, otherwise if you are like 93% of the guys that approach her trying to impress her that night, then you will be dismissed on the spot.
A tease is a way to communicate that you are not impressed by her looks nor her status. You are treating her like a normal human being and when you find something of substance in her then you address that by showing your interest. It’s a way of finding out if she’s cool and not uptight. The more attractive she is, the more it seems to work.
Most women assume that most guys approaching them are hitting on them, and in reality the majority are. You are expected as a man to go after what you want so approaching women is not the problem.
However, most guys show their interest too soon before finding more about a woman’s character whether she is the kind of woman they want to genuinely spend time conversing with after having sex. Showing interest in a woman too soon telegraphs to her that a guy has no standards and is after one thing which is sex.
So most attractive women have conditioned themselves to become standoffish until a man like you who gets it and is able to surpass her shield and build genuine connection that is based on her character not her appearance. Teasing is ONE OF the ways (but not the only way) to surpass her shield.
When you tease her with something like “I see you are a bit quite, do you go out often?”smile and move on to talk about something else, her reality may be shaken. Since you aren’t like most guys who hit on her telling her how beautiful she is or asking her if she has a boyfriend, or just hammering her with a series of boring interview questionnaire about where is she from and how long she has been here… You are not supplicating, seeking her approval, or offering drinks either.
An attractive woman understands the power she has over the majority of men. She is craving for a man who does not fall in that category of being supplicative and weak. Once you demonstrate you are confident then she will keep testing you to see if you will fall back in that weak category of men who seek her approval. If you snooze you loose. She wants to find a higher status man who she can respect.
Best way to demonstrate that you are that man is first through your non-verbal communication. Your body language and your vocal tonality accounts for 93% of communication. It is not what you say is how you say it. However this article is about teasing through words, if you want to learn the skills for proper non verbal communication then get the book that reveals it all Social Seduction.
You can talk about topics of mutual interest that appear to be boring in the beginning but later you can find something you can tease her about only if you are not aligned with. Remember, teasing is for surpassing her shield. If she is opened to the conversation and invested in you, then teasing could cause more harm. If she is not investing much in the interaction or she is being standoffish then something like “Nice shoes, my little sister would love those,” smile and show you are joking, can do wonder.
An attractive woman who understands her power may try to get you to do things for her. A classic example is asking you to buy her a drink. In which you will respond “No, I don’t buy drinks to people I don’t know but if you buy me a drink I’ll get you the next round.” If she doesn’t agree, you can turn your back and smile.
Tease about anything she has control over in the short-term, so nothing about weight, age, skin, body, etc. Usually by nature most guys are automatically perceived in most women’s mind as a sexual suitor. When you tease her, you are communicating the opposite. And that is you like her enough to approach her but she has to win you over with her character not her looks.
Never insult, keep it fun and light. The point is to get her laughing and to challenge her by demonstrating your self-confidence. Teasing that worked on the playground in elementary school still works well as an adult.
Women become attracted when they see you as a challenge. The more they are emotionally invested the better.
This goes back to the school of thought that society puts women up on a pedestal, and men treat women as goddesses with higher value than them. Most attractive women don’t pay cover charge, get free drinks at clubs, have guys who offer them free dinners, help them move, pay their bills, etc. so they are used to men supplicating to them.
Teasing is a sort of a light way to flip the tables around where you become the catch.
Some women who are not healthy minded unfortunately think just because they have the looks, it gives them a sense of entitlement and power over men. By teasing, you are dropping her down a notch from her pedestal. As a result usually she will start working to get back to that status by trying to seek your approval in which you will reward her. If you want to learn how to reward her specifically get the book that reveals it all Social Seduction.
Always remember that the point behind teasing is to have fun with a woman and not to bring her down. It is a form of bantering to see if she is cool enough to drop her guard and be real. Don’t ever try to insult or take away from a woman. Always give value and value will come back to you ten folds.
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